The Meeting Shows At Silver Bird Ikeja This Friday

Fans and stars alike are supporting the new movie THE MEETING. Rita Dominic, actress and co-producer of the film has been out and about with Nse Ikpe Etim, Femi Jacobs and Linda Ejiofor promoting and convincing audiences to take a chance and support a good Nigerian movie.  Speaking to Mildred Okwo, Producer and Director of the film, she says it has been tough convincing some fans who are used to watching certain kinds of Nollywood films at home and even at the cinema.

"However, whenever they have been convinced, they have thoroughly enjoyed watching the film and come out hugging the actors."

The Meeting has been getting rave reviews on twitter from people who have watched the film.  SilverBird cinemas opens in Ikeja this weekend and THE MEETING will also be showing in the new all digital cinemas.

I Went Through Hell in My First Marriage- Mercy Aigbe

Mercy Aigbe narrates to us how she suffered a lot in the hands of mother-in-law in her first marriage. She shared some of the sad memories in this chat with Showtime Celebrity. Excerpt:

So what were those mistakes you made in the last one that you wouldn’t want to repeat in this one?
It’s not like I’m trying to sound holy but, I didn’t make any mistake. I just feel it was meant to be like that. I had a mother-in-law who didn’t like where I come from. She didn’t like the fact that her son didn’t marry a lady from their village. She made me go through hell. At a point when I couldn’t take it any more, I left the marriage.

So you wouldn’t blame those ladies who wish their mother-in-laws were dead before they got married?
I swear I wouldn’t blame them. If I think back to what I went through, I wouldn’t pray for anyone to go through such because I went through hell in the hands of that woman. And for me to have woken up one day and decided to leave, it wasn’t easy because I was young and tried my best to please her. But she wasn’t pleased. I went out of my way to learn their language, learn how to cook different dishes just to please her but she didn’t budge.

So what did your ex-husband do about it?
At first, he actually fought it but some women have a strong hold on their sons. In the end, he obeyed her. He didn’t like it that I was leaving but he couldn’t hold me back at the same time because he wanted to please his mum. We had fought the battle for a long time and it wasn’t as if it would come to an end, I had to leave.

Mau Mengendalikan Mimpi? Berikut Caranya

Mau Mengendalikan Mimpi? Berikut Caranya, ZC-SECRET Akan mengulas tentang Mau Mengendalikan Mimpi? Berikut Caranya. Diketahui secara ilmiah kita bisa mengendalikan mimpi pada kondisi mimpi tertentu. Ini kali zc-secret akan membahas bagaimana caranya.

Patut disadari, mempraktekan teknik ini tidaklah gampang. Dibutuhkan latihan serta eksperimen berulang kali. Saya sendiri baru berhasil sekali dari puluhan kali mencoba. Kuncinya adalah kesabaran.

 

1. Langkah pertama, sebelum praktek di tempat tidur biasakan sering bertanya pada diri sendiri, "Apakah saya bermimpi?" dan sambil mencubit tangan, pipi atau bagian tubuh lain. Tujuan latihan ini untuk membiasakan saat nanti kamu mencoba teknik mencapai lucid di tempat tidur.

 

2. Buatlah jurnal mimpi. Letakan buku jurnal tersebut dekat ranjang dan segera menulis mimpi kita saat bangun. Kalau malas menulis, bisa mengetik di komputer, atau direkam, intinya mencatat mimpi yang baru dialami. 

 

3. Dengan memiliki jurnal mimpi, kita bisa mempelajari waktu-waktu saat kita mengalami mimpi. Seseorang masuk ke alam mimpi biasanya setelah 60 menit tertidur. Bila kita terbiasa mengingat mimpi kita, maka kondisi ini akan menolong saat nanti menggunakan teknik mencapai lucid (akan dibahas di poin 4).

 

4. Inilah saatnya praktek dengan teknik mencapai lucid. Sebenarnya ada banyak cara, namun yang kita bahas hanya dua saja.

 

Cara pertama disebut WILD atau Wake Indunce Lucid Dream, adalah teknik yang dilakukan dengan 'kesadaran' orang terebut untuk masuk ke fase lucid. Atau dengan kata lain kita tidak tidur dalam arti sebenarnya dan tetap terjaga hingga melewati fase REM (Rapid Eye Movement) dan Sleep Paralyze yang akan langsung terhubung ke dunia lucid. Langkahnya sebagai berikut:

a. Relaks, dan tanamkan secara tegas sebelum tidur bahwa "saya akan melakukan lucid dream".

b. Pejamkan mata, visualisasikan hal yang tidak membutuhkan imajinasi atau emosi tinggi (misalnya membayangkan gradasi warna). Usahakan diri kamu tetap terjaga dan tidak terbawa untuk masuk ke deep sleep(tertidur pulas). 

Catatan: Jangan praktekan bila tubuh sangat lelah, karena kita mudah tertidur dengan nyenyak. Setidaknya patokan ini cukup berhasil untuk saya :-)

c. Nikmati segala fase yang dirasakan, entah itu getaran, tarikan, dan lainnya. JANGAN PERNAH BERONTAK ketika fase ini terjadi. 

d. Kamu akan segera masuk ke fase sleep paralyze. Satu hal terpenting adalah JANGAN MEMUNCULKAN RASA TAKUT. Pada fase ini kamu akan merasa seolah terbangun, tetapi tidak dapat menggerakan anggota tubuh.

 

Cara kedua disebut MILD (Mnemonic Induced Lucid Dreams), adalah teknik yang ditemukan oleh Dr. Stephen LeBerge. Teknik ini dilakukan dengan bantuan mimpi yang sebelumnya telah terjadi. 

Langkah-langkah :

a. Lakukan tidur normal, pasang alarm 3-4 jam kemudian, dan bangunlah. 

 

b. Ketika terbangun oleh alarm, cobalah untuk mengingat mimpi sebanyak mungkin.

 

c. Setelah itu cobalah untuk kembali tidur, visualisasikan mimpi tadi dengan detail, dan katakan pada diri sendiri, "Saya sadar sedang bermimpi". 

 

5. Buat tanda seperti misalnya coretan huruf di telapak tangan menggunakan pena/spidol. Terus ingat selalu tanda tersebut, tanamkan kedalam memori bahwa "jika saya bermimpi tanda ini akan selalu muncul". Pada akhirnya nanti kamu bisa melihat tanda tersebut saat tertidur.

 

6. Biasakan melakukan cek realitas. Salah satu cara untuk melakukan cek realitas adalah mencari "tanda-tanda mimpi" (elemen yang sering terjadi selama bermimpi, seperti yang tertulis di jurnal mimpi kamu). 

Ketika tindakan ini menjadi kebiasaan, seseorang akan mulai melakukannya dalam mimpinya, dan dapat sampai pada kesimpulan bahwa kamu sedang bermimpi. 

Contoh: Lihat jam apakah masih berjalan konstan. Atau menutup hidung dan mencoba bernapas. Cubit tangan kamu sambil bertanya, "Apakah aku bermimpi?" 

Hal ini ada hubungannya dengan latihan yang dibahas pada poin 1 dan 2. Kalau kita sudah membiasakan melakukan cek realitas, misalnya selalu mencubit tangan dan kemudian pada suatu waktu kita tidak merasa sakit, atau sensasi berbeda seperti saat sadar, artinya kita sudah dalam keadaan lucid. 

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Demikian salah satu cara mencapai kondisi lucid. Masih banyak metode lain yang mungkin kamu bisa cari tahu sendiri, lebih jauh bisa bertanya pada komunitas DreamViews. Sekali lagi, dibutuhkan banyak latihan agar berhasil mencapai kondisi lucid. 

Ada beberapa hal positif kalau bisa berhasil, karena menurut penelitian lucid dream bisa membantu seseorang mengatasi mimpi buruk. Ya, kondisi lucid memungkinkan kita mengendalikan mimpi. Kita pun bisa bermain dengan imajinasi kita. Seru, kan?

Sumber tulisan dan all photos rights:

wikihow & apakabardunia.com

5 months ago I cut my hair and...

Hunty, I'm wondering why I didn't do it sooner. I want to shout this from the mountain tops - I LOVE my new hair!

My natural hair!!

Let me explain. I like to call myself a hair chameleon - I change my hair depending on my mood. Your girl has rocked all different types of hairstyles from weaves, to short relaxed 'Halle Berry-esque' crops and even braids. You name it- I've probably tried it in many different colors too.

Bang Bang!

So what convinced me to do the big chop? Cutting my mane this summer had nothing at all to do with the natural hair movement going on. Honestly it was just a matter of convenience. 

I really miss this color - I may try this again next year

Picture it- it was midsummer July in NYC and my hairstyle of the moment was a brown-ish wig with some fierce bangs. I was rushing to an event and my bangs were sticking to my forehead because of the sweltering heat. At that moment I had HAD enough. I decided right there and then it was time to get rid of the wig and do the big chop!

LOVING the big chop!

Well I am glad to report that my new hair regiment is SO easy! I wash my short natural 'do every other day using Twisted Sister Shampoo & Conditioner. After that I use a ribbed towel  to create a bit of texture and add dimension to my hair. What really helps define the hair is a product that I love called  Kinky Curly Custard. The whole process takes about 10 minutes and I am ready to go!

End of June - with one of my old wigs!

I really want my hair to grow out a few inches and then I will decide on the next steps. I will tell you though that I am enjoying the love I am getting because of my hair. Just this past week, I was at a Maybelline event on the 80th floor at the Empire State Building in NYC. The room was filled to capacity with who's who of the beauty world. When the beauty editors from Essence Magazine and Teen Vogue Magazine both complimented on my hair - I understood that for now, my hair is my signature look. Who knows what the next few months will hold for me hair-wise? I'm thinking of getting braids at some point but for now I think I am sticking with Team Natural!

NFL Player Jovan Belcher Kills Girlfriend and Self

Kansas City Chiefs American football player Jovan Belcher has killed himself outside the team's main stadium. Police said the 25-year-old first-team linebacker shot his girlfriend dead a few miles away, before driving to a training facility at Arrowhead Stadium.

He then shot himself in the car park in front of team officials.

The club confirmed the incident in a statement, adding: "We are co-operating with authorities in their investigation."

Kansas City police spokesman Darin Snapp told AP news agency that authorities were told early on Saturday that a woman had been shot five miles away from the Arrowhead complex.

The victim was later identified as Belcher's girlfriend.

Police were then called to the training facility, where they saw the player in a car holding a handgun to his head. He thanked the Chiefs' general manager Scott Pioli and coach Romeo Crennel for all they had done for him before shooting himself.

Bukky Wright & Helen Paul @ A Movie Location

                                            Bukky Wright keeps looking younger. Nice!

Pregnant Woman Left To Die Over Lack of Money

Late Ijeoma Umumadumere, nee Ahamefule

Do you think it is right for any doctor to leave a pregnant woman to die due to financial reasons? We know it is a private hospital, but should anyone be left to die? Aren't doctors meant to save lives? Read the story below.

A pregnant Nigerian lady has died because doctors in Port Harcourt insisted hre husband must pay N20,000, less than $150, before she was treated. Her family members are still in shock about her death, such that they are not even thinking of burying her for now.

The 34 year old woman, Ijeoma Umumadumere, nee Ahamefule, was rushed in the morning of 25th November to Garrison Clinic in Port Harcourt, when she complained of a sudden stomach pain and headache, while cooking. Her husband rushed her to the clinic on Udom street in the oil rich city. It was between 9-10 a.m. And she was five-months pregnant.


But doctors and nurses would not attend to the pregnant woman because the husband only had N5,000 on him, instead of the N20,000 being demanded, as a precondition for treatment. Even the N5,000 the man had on him had been used to offset registration and other costs.

Her brother, based in Austria could not understand why a doctor in a Nigerian hospital could have been so callous to have treated a woman pregnant with her first child in that manner. Here is what her brother said:

“Her husband begged the doctor and the nurses to attend to her since they had collected about N5, 000 he had in his pocket in the name of registration and other little things while he would go home and bring money. He had also told them that because of the nature of the emergency and the way his wife had been shouting while on the ground that his mind had only been pre-occupied with the thoughts of rushing her to any nearby hospital and had not thought of money or any other thing as he had even forgotten to put on shoes, but all his pleading and explanations to the doctor and the nurses had fallen onto deaf ears. With her pains increasing and death knocking and the doctor and the nurses refusing to understand, there was no way he could have left her there unattended, to go home and bring money. He took her and headed to another hospital, but unfortunately my sister did not make it as the damage had already been done before the doctors in that second hospital could do something reasonable to save her life.”

“What a country, what a failure and what a loss! This is a sad story of the sorry state of the Nigerian health policy, how Nigerians are heartlessly and carelessly neglected because of money by doctors and nurses to die in hospitals, and how I lost my sister to a failed system,”wrote Uzoma Ahamefule, based in Austria.

Many hospitals in Nigeria, both private and public, are in the habit of asking for pre-payment from patients, even when the case is an emergency.

Source: Pm News